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There’s something about a campfire. We gather around it, arrange logs, add twigs, stare into the flames, and the fire becomes a center of human activity. And we just can’t resist it.

The ancient Greeks had their Agora, a marketplace, yes, but also a place where people gathered to share stories, wrestle with questions, and exchange knowledge.

The campfire and the Agora understood something we’ve lost. All of us are drawn into spaces where spontaneous conversation happens, where we might be surprised.

I grew up camping across Colorado and the American West, hiking, skiing, backpacking, and fishing. Some of my favorite moments were at the end of the day when we were too exhausted to keep our guards up. We were tired all the way to the bones, and the only energy we had left created a pathway for genuine curiosity to emerge. We asked questions that mattered because we have the energy to scrutinize the answers.

I remember sitting around fires where we’d start talking about whether we’d packed enough food for the next day and somehow end up discussing what we thought we wanted to do with our lives. Or we’d begin complaining about our aching feet and find ourselves deep into questions about what makes something worth the effort. The exhaustion stripped away pretense. It opened space for unplanned, unanticipated, and unfiltered conversations.

We want to recreate those spaces like the ones we had around the campfire where these conversations emerge, the Kindling newsletter and these Sparks + Embers episodes which are the companions to the Kindling newsletter.

Well, we hope that they contribute to creating that space, but not through physical exhaustion. Instead, by honoring the questions that emerge when we stop rushing toward easy answers.

We’ve been collecting material that keeps sparking these unexpected conversations over the past several years. and they’re the kind where we start talking about one thing and we end up somewhere different.

If that sounds worth gathering around and being a part of, we’d love for you to join the conversation and subscribe to the kindling at goodpainco.com/kindling where we share this material.

So, here’s what this newsletter is. It’s material for reaction.

It doesn’t have answers and more accurately, it is what the action reflects or what that reaction reflects about us as individuals and as a community.

Sometimes it’s something we read about parenting that turned our assumptions upside down. And sometimes it’s a piece about what it means to be alone without being lonely.

The same way we might read something about maybe the James Webb telescope and find ourselves talking about what it means that we can see mere images of our universe. Those are the kinds of content and newsletters and conversations we’re trying to put together. We don’t know what going to come, but we’re looking for a surprise.

We’re going to share articles, research, hobbies, ideas, and stories that make us stop and say, “That’s interesting.” Because we need more time to consider what it really makes us feel. And saying interesting is the easiest thing to grab. Interesting is simply the placeholder for further exploration where we make bigger, more meaningful connections.

Take our first series launching the week of June 30th, The Good Pain Guide to Human Learning. It starts in a woodworking shop watching someone use hand tools and ends up wrestling with questions about consciousness and what makes human thinking different from machine thinking. It’s the kind of series where we begin talking about sharpening a chisel and find ourselves deep into what it means to learn anything at all. In a world where AI seems to think, we’re asking what thinking is. These aren’t abstract philosophical questions. They emerge from watching our hands work with wood, from noticing how we know things we never learned to put into words.

The whole point is creating material that sparks those conversations of surprise and connection when we’re sitting around talking about nothing in particular and someone mentions that thing they read and before we know it we’re deep into questions that matter.

That’s what this newsletter does or we hope it does. It provides the kindling for those fires.

When people subscribe they get a document called the art of being human together. It is a piece of long- form content and a fair warning it is long.

Like it’s really long and it’s got some academic wait to it because it provides the diagnostic and exploratory foundation for a lot of the reasons we believe more and more of our friends, family, and community are yearning for these types of conversations.

The ebook explores why we keep wrestling with questions such as how do we be alone without being isolated? How do we be part of a community without losing ourselves? How do we make decisions when we don’t have all the answers? The document provides the framework for understanding why these conversations keep emerging around our own campfires, why we keep coming back to the same questions from different angles, why some insights take years to really sink in while others change us in a moment. It’s the map of territory we’re already walking through. Most of us just haven’t had the language to describe what we’re experiencing.

The ebook speaks to the foundation. It’s a position paper essentially on what we are capable of building together. It outlines why we believe more and more in light of the times we are currently collecting experiencing. We cannot help but call to each other for connection and belonging despite how much thrashing, division, and separation is offered as an easy alternative.

The Kindling newsletter isn’t a position paper. Neither are these podcast episodes.

They are more accessible and narrative driven, but the kindling will still have some length to it because most conversations that matter can’t be reduced to bullet points or life hacks. They require sitting with complexity. Letting things simmer and coming back to questions from different angles.

Personally, I keep running into this thing where I want quick answers to questions that don’t have quick answers. Like, how do I raise kids who are both independent and caring? How do I build organizations that serve people instead of consuming them? How do I stay curious without becoming cynical? How do I make peace with uncertainty while still taking decisive action? These aren’t problems to solve. They’re territories I walk through, landscapes I have to explore over time, or more appropriately, they are exploring me and finding all my foils. I know I’m not alone. We are not alone.

The culture keeps pushing us toward faster, simpler, more efficient. Three steps to this, five keys to that, the one thing that will change everything. But the conversations that change us, the conversations that change me, happen when we slow down enough to let our assumptions get challenged when we’re too tired to defend our positions and too interested to walk away from the questions.

So, we provide substantial material with this newsletter. Not because we’re trying to be academic, but because the conversations worth having require some substance to work with. We’re aiming for that sweet spot where we can go deep without disappearing into jargon, where we can wrestle with real complexity without making it unnecessarily complicated.

I get it. We live in a world where we’re all maxed out on time. The last thing anyone needs is another thing to add to the pile. That’s why these Sparks + Embers episodes exist. Think of them as what happens when we have come back from a long hike and someone asks what we talked about around the fire. We share the highlights and the stuff that stuck. Maybe mention the one thing that made us think different.

We don’t try to recreate the entire conversation. We distill it down to what matters most. We are going to be using these episodes and promising that there’s going to be 10 minutes to share what came up when we were putting together the newsletter issue, the questions that wouldn’t let us go, the connections that surprised us, the insights that emerged from sitting with difficult material over time.

And sometimes it’s enough to spark something, even so much so that sometimes it makes people want to dig into the longer stuff, the news. letter itself because we believe we can honor both realities that the conversations worth having they do take time and that most of us are working with whatever time we can find.

The point isn’t consumption it’s creating space for whatever wants to emerge from the material. If this sounds worth gathering around, I’d love to have you join the conversation and head over to goodpainco.com/kindling. That’s goodpainco.com./kindling and subscribe.

We’ll send that territory map I mentioned, the art of being human together, right to your inbox.

If these questions keep coming up for us, it might be worth having that map. You don’t need to read it, but take a look for the newsletter.

It’s going to come out every week. It’s going to be the same kind of material we’ve been talking about here. Stuff that creates those unexpected moments around our own fires, the articles that won’t leave us alone, the insights that emerge when we’re too tired to pretend we have it all figured out. Every week we will provide the kindling along with companion episodes. We hope you will join us and bring your fire.